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Have you encountered a time where you felt like that everything just had to be perfect? Last month I went through a phrase like this that I call detrimental perfection. I was on a strict diet that I felt I had to oblige by. It wasn?t the fact that I wanted to lose weight and look better, but I was becoming overly obsessively about it.

Every day I would look in the mirror and make unnecessary judgment about what I didn?t like or see. Of course this thinking gets to your head overtime and you begin to live in a similar world where you feel as if your mind is trapped in prison.

Do you feel or have felt like this at one point? It just feel as if you can?t live the day to its fullest if you don?t have everything the way you want it to be.

I am in the process of recovering from this detrimental state of mind. Slowly realizing that being a perfectionist isn?t everything, I came across by this powerful quote:

Everything will be OK in the end. If it?s not OK, it?s not the end.

This quote made me realize how no one or nothing is perfect all the time 24/7. Eventually the grass will not stay at its greenest year long, and model will not always look at their best every single minute.

I?m not saying that we shouldn?t aim to better ourselves or achieve the best possible perfection for our living. But when it gets to that point where you are looking at the mirror obsessively like me, you will eventually form a mindset of the detrimental perfection? where nothing satisfy you until it seems perfect.

Every time I looked into the mirror, I intensely focused on my own little flaws instead of seeing anything else.

When that stage come to where you are only happy when things are perfect, that?s when your mental being becomes a risk. What would happen when you reach that stage and all of a sudden you lose or fail to maintain that perfection?

I know what happens. It feels as if your mind is locked in jail when you can?t live up to what you once were or had. I used to look much better than I am today. And I wanted to look how I once did before. But continuing the stress of not being happy for who I was during this moment in time did more harm than the actual mindset of not caring at all.

Does this mean that you should stop caring for your current perfection needs in life? Well, that?s one solution! But for the sake of exceeding your expectations without it being detrimental, I know much better ways of solving it. Keep these philosophies in mind below.

It?s not the end that brings the most excitement, it?s the journey.

During last month, I began to rush this goal of getting the ?perfect? weight I was looking for. Instead of taking things nice and steady, I took it fast and uneasily. Never once did I ever give myself a pat on the back.

Instead of thinking ?Wow, I lost a few pounds, I?m going to treat myself? I had the mindset of ?Wow, I lost a few pounds.. This needs to hurry up? In other words, I never giving myself a break and appreciated that I was human, and that I am not meant to make every single step perfect.

Perfection is achieved, not when there is nothing more to add, but when there is nothing left to take away.?

Antoine de Saint-Exupery

By not looking forward to seeing progress, everyday seemed more like a drag. To enjoy getting to perfection, the journey must be fun. If it isn?t, chances are that you are being too hard on yourself.

Nothing Stays Perfect Forever

This philosophy was the one ?that really sank into my mind.

Whether it was the past or the future that may become potentially better, you will always be in a constant state of stress if you are convinced that what you do is never good enough.

Do you know the consequences of keeping the grass at its greenest year long? When cold weather drops, you would have to go through the trouble of making sure the grass does not experience below its normal functioning temperature. Let?s not forget about watering it too and at the right temperature while we?re at it. All of these factors are important to keeping the grass at its greenest.

This perception is just as equal as to maintaining the perfection you?re looking for. It requires that you follow each and every step perfectly. But in reality, no one can do everything perfectly all the time.

Just as inconvenient and exhausting it would be to keep the grass at its greenest, making a big deal about being a perfectionist would be just as equally inconvenient and exhausting.

Besides, I can never really tell the difference between the greenest looking grass and a well kept maintenance grass.

Become Aware

If you find yourself in the same state of mind discussed in this article, it?s important to realize that we have the time of our life to achieve this perfection that we want.

There is no reason to become stressed just because we are disappointed for not being what we want in the present time. Although aiming to be perfect is not a bad trait as I have stated, it becomes detrimental when we become overly obsessively with it.

More than likely, perfectionists are already ahead of the average population in terms of what they are trying to achieve. But when you look at it further beyond, there is really no perfection defined. Only you can define that rule to be happy with.

While others have their opinion on what perfection is, your idea of perfection should be your own as well. By not defining yours, you will have a very hard time keeping up with what others expect.

I admit that my perfection about myself is set high, ridiculously high. While this is not a bad trait to have, it becomes detrimental only when I become obsessive with it.

Once this happens, I have to become aware myself and say that nothing stays perfect forever. In fact, it?s not the end that brings the most excitement, it?s the journey. If the end is not what I had in mind, then it has not ended yet, because everything will be OK in the end. If it?s not OK, it?s not the end.

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